“Find a group of people who challenge and inspire you; spend a lot of time with them, and it will change your life.”-Amy Poehler.
- BE KIND. This is no-brainer. Yet many people forget that what you give, you get back. No one’s gonna be around you if you treat them like dirt and take them for granted. So when you start a friendship, make some ground rules from both sides and stick to them. Be good and they’ll treat you the same way.
- BE YOURSELF. A friendship built on lies is bound to fall apart. Be authentic and live with integrity. Don’t try to be the best version you picture of yourself. Be the most real version of yourself. If your true identity drives certain people away, realise that they wouldn’t be valuable additions to your life. Shine your light as bright as you can. So that the right people will find you.
- LISTEN. SMILE. AGREE. If you have a friend you want to keep, smiling is honestly the best way to keep the friendship going. Engage in conversations that fascinate both you and your friends. Give them your insights. Take theirs. Make your discussions as colourful, diverse and intriguing as possible. Collaborate. Contribute. Connect.
- SHARING IS CARING. Don’t hold back when it comes to sharing ideas. Ideas are the single most important tool of connection and influence in any sort of relationship. They’re what define or destroy the friendship. So share ideas of love, growth and positivity with your friends and the world.
- UNDERSTAND. Understand that circumstances change like the seasons, and with it, so do people. It’s not your fault if someone who once was your friend doesn’t seem to be the same around you anymore. But it’s not theirs either. So don’t blame anyone. Be grateful for the friendship when it lasted, and realise that it has ended for the better. Accept it, let go and move on.
A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you’ve been, accepts what you’ve become, and still, gently allows you to grow. – William Shakespeare